Surrender ..continuation

Person:Surrender ho gaya , for HIM ?

Me:nahi hota na, jab ho jayega, tab no dikkat

Person:ha ha ha, great thoughts!!!!

Me:sabassi nahi answer do

Person:answer for?, soch rahi hoon

Person:yeh surrender ke jagah sacrifice hota to ??
surrender thoda negative vibes deta hai

Me:sacrifice is negative,sacrifice is a compromise,surrender is not

Person:u surrender when u r rwrong,u sacrifice when u want right

Me:disagree;take any relationship, BF and GF even , tumhara hi case le lo
continue karoon :) ?

Person:ya ya
boliye

Me:any BF and GF , the love that they feel for each other , isnt it born out of a very simple fact that they involuntarily let go of certain aspects
for eg, a normally agressive guy can be very gentle with his GF

Person:agreed

Me:coz, somehow, he does not why, he feels that correct he has not made the conscious decision of sacrificing it but because he loves her, anger somehow seems inappropriate .am I making any sense?

Person:yes

Me:jab log sacrifice karte hain , if that doesnt get converted to surrender, its short lived sacricifces are required sometimes

Person:so this is not surrender also i feel...... surrender is something done intentionaly when u realise u r wrong and u should give it up

Me:then what is it?


Person:shayad isse kuch aur bolna chahiye, aap sochiye

Me:what is surrender ?

Person:just a point of view
surrender is something done intentionally when u realise u r wrong and u should give it up,i feel

Me:surrender is just letting go,i define surrender as just letting go,letting go of control

Person:hmmm,in a sense i agree

Me:when u no longer consider urself to be the primary doer
when u love someone, u dont think why u love, what things are changing inside you
if u are nit-picking as in this is right , this is wrong, this is what I need to change the relationship becomes a drag, the problem is that we are always told that we need to have our own personality

Person:hmmm

Me:that this concept is in total contradiction to it ;in essence, its not

Person:but when u love someone u always wanna be the way that person would like
u to be

Me:who knows how he /she wants the other person to be agar saamne waale ki har baat manogi to he/she will be bored

Person:i mean u would do all that would make the pther person happy atleast to an extent

Me: agreed, to an extent yes and the point is ?

Person: it can be called surrender

Me: agar koi tumhare saamne apna ego khatm kar de w/o destroying his/her personality
how can u not love him/her?

Person:i agree,if a person can do this for u ,tumhe usse better koi nahi mil sakta